These are the 5 top sins that guys perform when interacting with girls and are the core reasons that so many of us find ourselves in the friend zone.
If you have had any experience of being in the friend zone then you will DEFINITELY recognize one or more of these faults in your social style.
So here they are, the 5 shortcuts to the Friend Zone:
1. Be Clingy
“Absence Make The Heart Grow Fond”
A girl will never miss you if you are always there for her when she needs you and even when she doesn’t!
Most guys have the misconception that being clingy, that is ever present, for the girl you like then you magically open up her eyes to seeing that you are the one guy who will always be there for her and thus resulting in a relationship.
Sounds pretty sound logic doesn’t it?
Well rational thought and the ways of the heart are not on the same page.
So although that line of thought makes sense, in real life, it really doesn’t work out for the best.
Simply because your being clingy sends the message that she is your number one focus and that your life sought of revolves around her.
Believe it or not, but this is the WRONG message to send a girl because girls like a guy that has his own life going on, a guy who has a focus other than her, goals other than just pleasing her and a guy with a backbone.
Simply put clingy = dependent!
She wants you to be independent! So take some time away from her, be mysteriously aloof every now and then.
Let her want you attention, let her strive to gain it all!
2. Be Overly Nice And Polite
“Nice guys do finish last!”
Now don’t get me wrong, I am NOT saying that you go out there and be an ass!
No, what I mean is that when you try to be the “Perfect Gentleman” you send out the wrong message, and the message is this:
- I am trying too hard to gain your attention and approval
- I am definitely whipped
- I have no personality of my own and that’s why I am trying to gain your interest and attention with fake acts of politeness and niceness.
- I really don’t know anything about socializing with girls.
So unless you are a royalty or a direct descendant of royalty and you have the accent, finances and wardrobe to march then please don’t try the “Perfect Gentleman” persona as a means to get with a girl.
I know that mummy always said that you need to be nice to the girls and always be polite and a gentleman to girls but as a general rule to avoid the friend zone:
“Listen To Everything Mum Told You About How To Treat A Girl And Do The Exact Opposite!!!”
Read my article on how to be a little bit of an ass to her and why she will love you for it.
3. Gossip With Her
DO NOT engage in mindless gossip… PERIOD!
Few things make a guy look worse than him being a gossip. It presents the image that you have nothing better to do than to dwell on the lives of others.
Also gossip is usually associated with girls, so a guy gossiping presents a feminine image that you really do not want to have unless you want the girl of your dreams thinking of you as one of the girls!!
4. Being The Wrong Kind Of Funny
When girls say that they want a guy with a good sense of humor a lot of guys misunderstand what kind of humor she means.
Please note that although most girls like “funny guys”, I am still yet to a girl that loves clowns!
The kind of humor that girls actually like is a playful and sensual form of humor called “Cocky humor”.
Don’t believe me?
Then go out, buy a joke book, memorize some jokes and try and impress a girl… no scratch that… try and just hold her attention with those jokes and see how far you go with thatJ
So why does Cocky Humor work?
Simply because it exhumes a ton of confidence while at the same time building physical and emotional tension between the two of you. In other words, it leaves her thinking of you.
Now for more on Cocky Humor check out my other articles on the matter.
5. Always Say Yes
The word “No” in the eyes of girls holds more water than the word “Yes”.
Too many guys try to suck up to girls by being super nice to them and being “Yes Men”.
Therefore it sends a powerful message when you are able to tell a pretty girl “No” to a request of hers that she would otherwise expect an obvious “Yes”.
It tells her that you are able to say no to her and thus you are your own man and girls love strong independent guys.
So learn to say no to her if you want her respect… otherwise he only place you will find yourself her “Friend Zone”.
Some girls are actually looking for some of these qualities in guys. However the resultant relationships are almost always short term and destined to fall.
Because in the resultant relationships the girl is the man in the relationship and ultimately, all girls want a real man for a real meaningful relationship!